10 Ways to Change your Life
03 Jun 2012 Leave a Comment
in Motivation and Positivity, NLP Tags: Doris Day, happiness, Mental health, motivation, Paul McGee, Philosophy, positivity, Que Sera, Que Sera Sera
Peace
I have been thinking for a while now about what I have learnt about myself over the last few months and what lessons I have picked up from all the books I have read, courses, seminars, blogs etc and decided it was time to pull it all together into one concept.
So, I hope you enjoy but don’t let it just become another blog page – get out there change your life, embrace the amazing world we live in and find your potential. All of us can be truly amazing and you will never know just how amazing you are until you try!
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First day of the rest of my life………..
12 May 2012 Leave a Comment
in My Training Updates, NLP Tags: goal setting, goals, motivation, Neuro-linguistic programming, Paul McKenna, positivity, Richard Bandler
Sounds scary doesn’t it? Woke up this morning feeling, well, excited; its like when you are getting ready for a first date or to go on fabulous holiday and you feel excited, nervous, full of anticipation and to think I get to feel like that about the rest of my life, how cool is that?!
So, grabbing hold of my life and squeezing every last inch of happiness and fun out of it I am off to the gym for a PT session and then I have client this afternoon; I can’t wait to start applying the techniques and language patterns to every day life and to see how they can enrich all areas of my life.
First things first; GOALS. I have always thought goals were important to me and that was reinforced when Paul McKenna did his timeline exercise last year, my goals became really clear and have guided my decision making the last few months. Don’t think I would have achieved all I have the last six months without having understood my goals and the steps that form a part of each one.
No matter what you are doing, or in what area of your life, it’s really important to understand two things;
- Where you are now
- Where you want to be
We all need to understand where we are now, how we feel, what that looks like – it is only by understanding this that we can recognise 
what we want and how we want to feel so spend a few minutes today thinking about how you feel now, your achievements, successes, troubles, worries etc anything that helps to get a handle on where you are in your life right now!
Now think about what you really want your life to look like, where do you want to be, what do you want to achieve and when – what does that look like, what does it feel like, what do you see, what do you hear. Do you truly understand what your hopes, dreams and goals are?
If we can understand where we are and where we want to be we can better understand the steps needed to bridge that gap and rather than it seeming like a vast chasm between the two points it can become a ladder of smaller steps each one building to the ultimate end goal of a brighter better future.
Have a wonderful, happy, healthy weekend.
X
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Day 4 NLP Seminar
08 May 2012 Leave a Comment
in My Training Updates, NLP Tags: John and Kathleen La Valle, motivation, Neuro-linguistic programming, NLP, positivity, Richard Bandler, weight loss
0835: Here we are again waiting to go in and although I am tired I can’t wait to see what today will bring.
Been thinking about my relationships with family and with friends; what works, what doesn’t work, positive, negative and most of all how those relationships affect me and how I can change them.
12:30: Lunchtime and another amazing session with Richard finishing with a trance. Feel so alive and positive but slightly anxious about tomorrow’s phobia day – I hate spiders and moths so if he can get me over that it would be incredible!
Have much more of a sense of what is possible now, how much I can achieve. Life is just full of options and we should all enjoy every second of it!
18:50: On train home after long afternoon session with John and Kathleen La Valle. Lots of language stuff with Kathleen and interesting
to start noticing language patterns in ourselves and others. Johns session was more language but its more about the application. Was really long and got a bit tedious towards the end but he finished with a really great trance for goals and motivation.
This course has made me even more sure that although there is stuff in my head that is getting sorted there are so many ways it can be applied to help other people. Weight loss and fitness seem a perfect fit but so many of us are so screwed up it would cool to be able to help people live happier more fulfilling lives.
Weirdly I am really looking forward to embracing the challenges tomorrow knowing I can do anything I set my mind to – I don’t have 
to settle for anything!
Bring on the tarantula!!
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Day 3 NLP Seminar
07 May 2012 Leave a Comment
in My Training Updates, NLP Tags: motivation, Neuro-linguistic programming, NLP, positivity, Richard Bandler
Well, if I thought I felt good yesterday I was wrong. Richard Bandler is a genius, I feel amazing and all the stuff that was bothering me last week seems totally irrelevant.
The notion that we all carry all this stuff in our heads that holds us back and stops us reaching our potential seems stupid – if we only understood that we can change our state, our emotions and get rid of negative nonsense we would all be so much happier.
We all have our issues, our past, our relationships etc but it is how we choose to respond to them now and in the future that will determine our success and ultimately our happiness.
Grab every opportunity you have in life, stop thinking about the bad stuff and concentrate on all the fabulous stuff around you.
I can’t wait until tomorrows session………………just so long as it isn’t phobia day!!
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Day 2 – NLP Practitioner Course with Richard Bandler
06 May 2012 Leave a Comment
in My Training Updates, NLP Tags: cheerleader, John La Valle, Michelle Paradise, Neuro-linguistic programming, Optimism, Paul McKenna, positivity, Psychology, Richard Bandler
At the risk of repeating myself, WOW, WOW and WOW! Another exhausting but amazing day at the NLP Practitioner Course in London. To be given the chance to try to trance someone, to understand the techniques and to practice them was fantastic and its there, almost! You can see and feel how it would work but like all things we all need to practice the words, the intonation, the rhythm so it looks like I will using lots of guinea pigs in the days and weeks ahead!
Spent the afternoon with some of the other Master Trainers taking us through different strategies and techniques and it was great to see how different they are but how each is effective in their own way – Michelle Paradise was fantastic!
John La Valle finished up again showing how we can use language and how the techniques can be applied in business, all the ideas I had for applying this beforehand have been shown to be severely limited; there are so many more ways NLP can be used than I ever thought!
I cannot believe this was only day two; I feel incredible and whilst my head is stuffed full of ‘stuff’ I need to process I already feel so 
excited about the future and the endless opportunities ahead!
She’s back!!!
Change is so hard……take one step at a time
13 Mar 2012 Leave a Comment
in Motivation and Positivity Tags: change, Hayley Mills, Health, motivation, Pollyanna, positivity, weight loss
Why is it that we all find change so difficult? What is it about change that scares us so much that its easier to stay where we are rather than do
something that we KNOW is good for us.
I guess none of us likes the idea of doing something scary, outside of our comfort zone – it makes us feel not quite in control, as if we might not do something perfectly, that we might actually fail – and none of us really likes to think we might fail, especially if someone else is watching! So we carry on eating too much, not exercising, smoking, in a job that makes us unhappy or in an unhealthy relationship rather than take the risk that someone else will judge us or even worse, we will fail to life up to our own expectations.
We all have that little voice in the back of our minds that says “you can’t do that” “I don’t like that it doesn’t feel right, so stop” “who do you think you are thinking that” ” you will fail” “you are useless / fat / stupid etc”. The voice doesn’t intend to be mean, it’s there to protect you, to keep you safe but the negative sound track to your life holds you back, makes you doubt yourself and to doubt what you can do.
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Cheerleader Positivity Alert!
09 Mar 2012 Leave a Comment
in Motivation and Positivity, My Training Updates Tags: fitness, Kieran, motivation, positivity, strength training, weight loss, weight training
Ok, its been a few days since I sounded like a cheerleader and weirdly the feelings are still there!
I have been so motivated, focussed and effective the last few weeks I cannot believe how much I am getting done – not sure if it’s the exercise, the really clean diet (ok, I confess apart from the odd chocolate biscuit – a girl has to have her weaknesses!) or the complete change in attitude bought about by the first two but life is pretty damn amazing!
I have developed a real intense interest in emotions, motivation and how it impacts on our view of the world and more importantly, how we can change our perception of what happens in our lives – I think this will fit in so well with my NLP course and I can’t wait to do the course and to see how I can help other people to reach their potential. Perhaps the self-awareness bought about by all this knowledge is part of the reason but whatever it is, I know its changing me for the better.
I do feel that I am part of some science experiment though; Kieran and I are charting my weight and BFP whilst monitoring my food, rest and exercise intensity to see how much they relate to each other and whilst we had agreed to do this for eight weeks and then go back to weights or strength training, I think we should carry on for longer to get a fuller picture of how hormones are affecting my body composition. If we can better understand what happens to me I think we are both in better position to help other people who are struggling to lose weight or who hit a plateau.
So, onwards and upwards. 2012 has so far, been the most incredible year of my life (and I haven’t really done anything yet!) and I feel better, 
stronger, happier and healthier than I can ever remember. Remember , if you do what you have always done you will get what you always got SO, be brave, make a change, challenge yourself today, push yourself to achieve something. You are amazing, you can do it.
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Positivity alert – again!
04 Mar 2012 Leave a Comment
in Motivation and Positivity Tags: motivation, positivity
It’s all very strange but when I started this blog I expected to chart my exercise, my experiences, the highs and lows but what I didn’t expect was to sound like some extremely positive motivational coach!
My life hasn’t changed to be honest, I have the same job, the same issues, the same people in my life BUT the difference is me. I have changed how I view life, how I view everything that happens in my life and, as a result, I am constantly astonished at just how amazing it all is!
This has been an ok-ish week, haven’t done all of my workouts this week, not worked as hard at the gym today, been really busy, missed my 100-120g protein target a few days and had a minor falling out with a dear friend (all sorted now!) BUT instead of obsessing at how bad things are or worrying about stuff the way I used to, I can only see the good in every situation. Everything that happens allows me to challenge my interpretation of events and to try and see the other persons perspective – I don’t always get it right but in getting it wrong I learn too!
Life is truly amazing and is teaching me everyday just how fantastic it all is. Yesterday (Saturday) was a typical day – double gym session then had to rush off for beauty treatment (it really wasn’t a treat, trust me!) then a mad dash round the shops with the children shopping for trips and family chores, rush home to find my parents were there, cook dinner for everyone and then try and fit the rest of my life into an hour or so that was left. So what made that so amazing?
We had fun shopping; bought some new gym kit and t-shirts, came home and discovered I could fit into a pair of jeans I bought AGES ago and shock, horror more than fit in to them I looked AWESOME. I looked at this body, the same one I see everyday but I suddenly saw it through my daughters eyes and realised how fabulous I looked. Spending time with her does change my view of me and what I wear and I was truly stunned to realise how much I had changed and I was so touched to realise how proud she is of me too.
Again, nothing had changed at all – simply my perception of me, the chance to see me and my achievements through someone else’s eyes. I truly love my life right now and have never been happier – the (many) challenges around me stimulate me mentally, emotionally, intellectually, training pushes me physically and I really do feel that I can take on anything right now.
I don’t know whether this is a result of training, weight loss, emotional development and understanding, confidence, the right support team (you 
know who you are), getting my act together or all of the above but if I could give one tiny piece of advice to anyone it would be challenge yourself and your life. Don’t accept ‘what will be will be ‘, make a small change every day, you never know where it will take you!
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Life is good!
01 Mar 2012 Leave a Comment
in Motivation and Positivity Tags: determination, fitness, happiness, positivity, wellbeing
I absolutely love my life.
Yes it has its challenges, its ups and downs, there are days when the amount of juggling seems ridiculous and out of control but lets face it, in the grand scheme of things I am a very lucky woman.
I have my health, my fitness, two adorable (most of the time) more or less grown up children, a full-time job that keeps me financially secure enough to enjoy my free time and a free time that is packed with fascinating and interesting things to do. Compared to many people I know and accept I am lucky.
I didn’t always feel like this; I have had more than my fair share of difficulties mental, physical, emotional and financial over the years and the one thing I have learnt is that the best person for me to rely on when things get tough is….ME! I know I am stronger than I think, I know I have the grit, determination and tenacity to stick with things that are important to me and every day as I learn more and more about myself I am reminded of just how far I have come and how much more I can achieve. We humans are truly amazing and our capacity for change is quite remarkable.
For me, living in the moment and enjoying life here and now are key. It’s so easy to put off being happy until we reach some mythical nirvana – the perfect job, the perfect weight, the perfect house – and I hear people saying all the time “it will be ok when….” but they are missing what’s happening right here right now.
Life is amazing, glorious Technicolor, complicated, stressful but amazing and after all we only have one life to live so we all should be living the best life we can. Live in the present, spread joy and positivity, be the best YOU that you can be, find your potential, encourage others, live life as fully as you are able, don’t look back, forgive easily and hold those dear to you as close as you can whilst letting them spread their wings.
Have a wonderful, wonderful Thursday!
X
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A good day!
28 Feb 2012 Leave a Comment
in My Training Updates Tags: Business plan, fitness, positivity, studying
I have had a couple of really good and very productive days. Grabbed hold of my life by the scruff of the neck and finally made it submit!
Decision made on the name (it’s still a secret!); logo and branding design ordered, initial wording for strapline drafted, first idea for the website storyboarded. Put some feelers out to some of my contacts for someone to design the website for me and think I will be able to get that ordered at least, possibly this week but whilst its something I want to do, it’s not important or really urgent. So I don’t mind if I wait to get the website up and running as once I have the logo I can sort marketing and my new blog out.
Sent the fitness contract to my ex (if you are reading this Mike, you are a star!) to review – once he tells me he thinks its ok I will sign it so that’s another weight off my mind.
